Manners is nothing but the outcome of our environment where
we live. If our elders say lying is not a crime in our infancy then as we grow
up we lie to others even by making eye contacts. Our environment affects our
manners directly.
“papa papa, I am 8years old but you told him 5years”
“chup, don’t
scream else conductor will ask money”
A father replied to
his son while traveling in bus. Here start elders- coaching-classes-for-lying-to-children.
This is quite a familiar incident in India. This is just a simple instance but
speaks much about people.
A small girl sat beside me in bus. She was eating chocolate
and need not to say more chocolate was there on her face and hands than her
stomach. I was busy with my lap-top then suddenly she wiped her hands to my
pant, she might have assumed my tens of thousands cost pant as a rag. She was
just a small girl to scream at her. With an artificial smile I showed her
parents what your ‘a little’ has done to my pant. They smiled in response as to
say me,’ why do you think we are sitting apart from her?’!!
Great family. I saw the girl. She was laughing at me and
clapping. I guess she was happier to share her chocolate with my pant. Now, no
wonder, I had more chocolate than her hands and stomach.
Someone rightly said, “India has got world’s largest toilet
facility extending from Jammu & Kashmir to Kanyakumari!” If we knock the door and say “don’t use
bathroom, train is in station” a cool reply comes from inside, ‘ arrey bhaiyya, kab tak rokuuu?, it’s better to do here than in compartment!’ you
can’t blow the door and kick his ass and tell him to come out; just close your
nose with your fingers and leave the place.
People know all these
but yet they litter. The same people when they sit with garam chai while watching TV, say ‘see, our nation is so
unhygienic’. If you want to change the
system then change yourself; everyone will trail you.
(courtesy: ecosuperior.org)
One boy was scribbling something on seat in the bus. I told
him its bad manners and to strengthen my point I gave an example. ‘In Japan
passengers carry a needle and thread while traveling in bus or train. If the
seat is tattered they stitch it. That’s their kindness but in India, passengers
will put their two fingers in the torn seat and try to make it bigger!’
Sudden reply came, ‘its owner fault, why can’t they stitch
the tattered seats or better replace them?’
It is common problem with of all of us. We never accept our
faults rather busy in pointing on someone else.
I replied, “Don’t forget, it’s we people harm the seats not
they. By the way, how many seats you will replace? It’s a mere waste till the
people like you have fun in harming them”.
It’s no wonder city buses are treated as dustbins by
passengers. An old man was throwing an empty chips packet inside the bus. I
told him not to throw here. He calmly replied, “Beta, why you look for the perfection in this imperfect world (!)?
OK I respect your concern”. Then he threw it outside the window! It was good he
was polluting in the bus but now he polluted the city by throwing the packet
outside bus!!
I wanted to screw him and say ‘if you had used your
philosophy in a good way you would have owned this bus’.
“Now it’s OK?” old-man asked me.
I stared at him as response.
Nowadays people forget even how
much they are polluting the city and what will be its aftermath. How will they
know it is bad as many are doing the same. Everyone assumes it’s permitted.
In India we have more resources than some of the developed
countries. But even we find scarcity of some resources. People blindly say,
it’s because of huge population. But no. The reason is, in developed countries
with the limited resources they try to take out maximum efficiency possible but
In India, we fix a minimum efficiency on resources first then try to use them.
Is just growth in IT sector assumed as an overall growth? In
my views, if you want to measure the country’s growth then include humanity,
politeness, brotherhood and manners. Foundation of the country should be strong
when you want to build a super structure on it.
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