Manners is nothing but the outcome of our environment where we live. If our elders say lying is not a crime in our infancy then as we grow up we lie to others even by making eye contacts. Our environment affects our manners directly.
“papa papa, I am 8years old but you told him 5years”
“chup, don’t scream else conductor will ask money”
A father replied to his son while traveling in bus. Here start elders- coaching-classes-for-lying-to-children. This is quite a familiar incident in India. This is just a simple instance but speaks much about people.
A small girl sat beside me in bus. She was eating chocolate and need not to say more chocolate was there on her face and hands than her stomach. I was busy with my lap-top then suddenly she wiped her hands to my pant, she might have assumed my tens of thousands cost pant as a rag. She was just a small girl to scream at her. With an artificial smile I showed her parents what your ‘a little’ has done to my pant. They smiled in response as to say me,’ why do you think we are sitting apart from her?’!!
Great family. I saw the girl. She was laughing at me and clapping. I guess she was happier to share her chocolate with my pant. Now, no wonder, I had more chocolate than her hands and stomach.
Someone rightly said, “India has got world’s largest toilet facility extending from Jammu & Kashmir to Kanyakumari!” If we knock the door and say “don’t use bathroom, train is in station” a cool reply comes from inside, ‘ arrey bhaiyya, kab tak rokuuu?, it’s better to do here than in compartment!’ you can’t blow the door and kick his ass and tell him to come out; just close your nose with your fingers and leave the place.
People know all these but yet they litter. The same people when they sit with garam chai while watching TV, say ‘see, our nation is so unhygienic’. If you want to change the system then change yourself; everyone will trail you.
One boy was scribbling something on seat in the bus. I told him its bad manners and to strengthen my point I gave an example. ‘In Japan passengers carry a needle and thread while traveling in bus or train. If the seat is tattered they stitch it. That’s their kindness but in India, passengers will put their two fingers in the torn seat and try to make it bigger!’
Sudden reply came, ‘its owner fault, why can’t they stitch the tattered seats or better replace them?’
It is common problem with of all of us. We never accept our faults rather busy in pointing on someone else.
I replied, “Don’t forget, it’s we people harm the seats not they. By the way, how many seats you will replace? It’s a mere waste till the people like you have fun in harming them”.
It’s no wonder city buses are treated as dustbins by passengers. An old man was throwing an empty chips packet inside the bus. I told him not to throw here. He calmly replied, “Beta, why you look for the perfection in this imperfect world (!)? OK I respect your concern”. Then he threw it outside the window! It was good he was polluting in the bus but now he polluted the city by throwing the packet outside bus!!
I wanted to screw him and say ‘if you had used your philosophy in a good way you would have owned this bus’.
“Now it’s OK?” old-man asked me.
I stared at him as response.
Nowadays people forget even how much they are polluting the city and what will be its aftermath. How will they know it is bad as many are doing the same. Everyone assumes it’s permitted.
In India we have more resources than some of the developed countries. But even we find scarcity of some resources. People blindly say, it’s because of huge population. But no. The reason is, in developed countries with the limited resources they try to take out maximum efficiency possible but In India, we fix a minimum efficiency on resources first then try to use them.
Is just growth in IT sector assumed as an overall growth? In my views, if you want to measure the country’s growth then include humanity, politeness, brotherhood and manners. Foundation of the country should be strong when you want to build a super structure on it.
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